Blog Archives: September 2010

Some Rules to Live By

September 29, 2010
Since I was a kid, I have always had a slight urge to flip through hymnals, wherever I was.  Mostly this took place at my home church, and I began to pride myself on knowing much of the 1975 Baptist Hymnal by heart (meaning lyrics, as well as hymn numbers...though I’ve forgotten most of that, there are still a few I can recall, and if someone quizzed me on them today, I could answer right away...”what’s hymn #65 in the 1975 Baptist Hymnal?”  “Amazing Grace”, I would say).  And of course as I grew older I got a kick out of seeing how many ...

The Truth About Happy Marriages (and Churches!)

September 14, 2010
  Since I began writing last month, seeking to apply to the church the insights of John Gottman’s book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, several counselor friends have also highly recommend Sue Johnson’s book Hold Me Tight. Johnson helps us with “seven conversations for a lifetime of love,” which she uses in the Emotionally Focused Therapy she has developed. Catherine and I have just begun reading Johnson’s book, so I look forward to learning more about love in marriage (and of course love in the church community) from another ...

I Love God, not my neighbors.

September 07, 2010
Some of us go to church to love God instead of our neighbors. I wonder if Jesus would have found this to be a possibility? Actually, I don't wonder about this, as he made his thoughts on the matter pretty clear. His Cliff's Notes version of his Jewish Bible (the Law and the Prophets) read like this, "The Greatest Commandment is this: Love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength. And the second one is just like it, Love your neighbor as yourself." For Jesus, these two commandments were a photo finish. An alien ...